as i said, he had me back within a week. but just a month after we broke up, he went to a party and she was there, and he didnt even tell me he was going. he says nothing happened and i believe him. but since then i havent felt happy or loved by anyone, ive turned into this paranoid distrusting jealous shadow of myself. he and i rarely see each other, we hardly even talk, and its our anniversary today.i need to do something, i cant go on like this. but i cant let him go. and yes, we have has sex
Hi darling (:
Well, your boyfriend obviously has a substance abuse problem. If he constantly feels the need to be on some sort of high, and allows whatever he’s using to influence him in a way that hurts those around him, then he has a serious issue, one that could develop into something even worse. This can go three way. First; you could sit back, let him hurt you, and do nothing about it because you care too much to leave - I don’t suggest this. The second scenario would involve leaving him, and moving on. Lastly, if you truly love him as deeply as you seem to, and see a future with him that you’re not ready to give up on, you can give him an ultimatum. If he refuses, then he’s not worth the trouble, because he obviously isn’t serious about you and your relationship, and he doesn’t deserve someone as devoted and committed as you. Tell him he needs to quit drinking and partying, explain what you’ve explained to me, and make it clear that if he can’t sacrifice his partying time for you, then you can no longer be with him.