My guess is that even though you know this is a good opportunity for not only your education, but your independence and life experience as well, you’re also fearful of leaving home, being in an unfamiliar setting with unfamiliar people, etc. It’s very understandable. I should probably tell you that this is an amazing opportunity that you shouldn’t pass up, but in all honesty, you should never do something that may make you unhappy. Your lack of desire to send out your application, is subconsiously brought on by you being hesitant and unenthusiastic about opening this new chapter in your life. This may be a good opportunity, but that doesn’t mean it’s the right thing for you. Not going wouldn’t be weak, or childish, and even though many say you need to try new things and be adventurous, that doesn’t mean sticking to something you’re comfortable with should be frowned upon. Moving to a foreign country is much, much different than just moving to a different city on your own. In fact, I admire you tremendously for even considering this move. But in my truthful opinion, go with your gut feeling; always.
Nobody would be happy to see you lose your life, whether accidental or intentional, your death would cause an indescribable amount of pain and grief. Last year, there were two dearths of teens in my town, and you know what? People they probably never even knew noticed them, were grieving the loss of their lives. candle light vigils, tshirts and bracelets made, money raised for their families….nobody wants to see a life lost (granted, Osama Bin Laden, Hitler, etc.)you have so much to live for, so many people who love you to live for, a future to live for. Things get better, I swear to you. The only place to go once you’ve hit rock bottom, is up. You’re going to be okay, you just need to want to. You need to think positive and take life one day at a time, rather than dwell on the negatives. You can overcome ANYTHING. And I want you to know that I believe in you, so much.
Hi! I, too, am I size zero, and have stretch marks. It really sucks, doesn’t it? I don’t know about you, but my stretch marks came from my biggest growth spurt. I was 5ft in the 5th grade. Awkward class photos.
The stretch marks on my inner thighs are horrible. I’ve always been so utterly self-conscious over them; very, very embarrassed. I used to be scared to wear bathing suits or shorts, because I felt as though I looked like some deformed freaks. But then….I started meeting people like you - People who have the same problem!
It’s super comforting to know that you’re not alone in something like that. Having flaws is only human, in fact, flaws make you special. I’m sure you are so beautiful, and your flaws seem flawless.
The fact that you have a boyfriend who makes you feel comfortable in your own skin, is incredible. You have your family, your best friend, and a boy you love who are all proud of the person you are, both inside and out! Who else really matters? I’ve found that knowing my partner finds me attractive, makes me feel less…ugly. Being able to openly display your imperfections in front of someone whom you want nothing more than for them to think your perfect…that’s something special.
You’re stunning, and the only person who can truly make you think otherwise, is yourself. Accept yourelf, as those who love you have accepted you. Try and see yourself through their eyes, and it’ll do wonders for your confidence.
Well, my boyfriend makes sure I know that I’m perfect as is, that I don’t need to change or improve. But he also encourages me to go after my dreams, he supports me and doesn’t let me give up. He also has no problem telling me when I’m out of line, which prevents future arguments. In my opinion, doing all of that, is doing everything right.
You’re gay. You can’t help it. You are who you are. God made you the way you are, and God makes no mistakes. Your mom is shocked, and this isn’t easy news for her to hear. What’s going through her mind right now is probably that what if she never gets grand kids, the thought of you being degraded and discriminated against, the question if this is somehow her fault. And soon, she’ll calm down, she’ll accept the way things are and understand that everything will work out alright. A parent should love their child unconditionally, and maybe this isn’t a condition she’s comfortable with or supportive of but it doesn’t lessen the love she has for you.
Just be yourself! You seem wonderful to me! There’s no rush for a relationship, just enjoy your senior year, stay true to who you are, and someone will see how amazing you are. And don’t be scared to initiate a conversation with any guy you’re interested in. Somebody’s gotta make the first move (:
Tell him what you told me. Simple as that(:
Thats really strange. How old are you both? he doesn’t sound mature enough for a relationship.
It’d help if you told me what the discussion was about, and what triggered his bad mood
Sweetheart, in my opinion, 14 year olds shouldn’t even be kissing boys. You’re so young, and to be involved with someone seven years older than you, at this age, is outrageous. Don’t get me wrong, if you were twenty and he was twenty seven, that’d be perfectly normal. However, right now, you are at completely different stages in your lives, at different maturity levels, with different priorities and interests. To be completely honest, if a 21 year old kissed a 14 year old, especially if he considered anything more than just a kiss, he’s probably a very sick young man, and not somebody to get involved with.
Uhm well, we all see beauty in every aspect of the world. I’m totally straight, but can say that certain ladies are breathtaking. There’s a difference from being attracted to someone and wanting to look like them. In my case, I’d like to look like the women I find beautiful, not have sex with them. I mean, you need to really think, would you be in a relationship with a girl? Marry one? Or do you crave having a man to love and depend on? I know so many supposedly bisexual girls who consistently complain about how badly they want a sweet, committed boyfriend. They never say they want a girlfriend. In my opinion (no offense to anyone) you’re either gay or straight. Anything in between is either denial or perversion. You need to figure out who you are, accept yourself as that person, and love yourself, no matter what.
One day you’ll find the man of your dreams, and all of the ones who broke your heart in the past will be nothing but silly boys. Your heart can be bruised and damaged, but bruises heal, damage fades away. One one person, your soulmate, can leave a gash in your heart, a hole that can be filled with no one other than themself. But your heart keeps you going, and as long as youre alive, that true love isn’t dead. This boy isn’t your soulmate, he’s not your other half. You will heal, and that emptiness will be filled, the right puzzle piece will complete your picture. You just need to be patient. And when you and that person find each other, everything will be okay, always, because you’ll never face a moment alone.